Have you ever found yourself talking to a friend who was being treated for Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), and you heard them say, “I don’t know who I am anymore?” Have you ever wondered, “Who am I? How did I get here? How can I get back to myself? ”This is a common reaction among those who experience or recover from an abusive relationship. People may feel that their identity and feelings have been erased after experiencing the emotional trauma associated with abuse including being repeatedly told that they are dumb, stupid and worthless, that no one else can care for them, and that they would be worthless if they did not have a caring partner. After the end of the toxic relationship, the survivor may move away from the “survival mode” where all activities and collaborations are about passing through and trying to reduce the severity and impact of trauma, with the opportunity to prosper as a person. Think of torture as a storm. When a storm passes, it leaves behind leaves, twigs, and debris that need to be removed before things can return to normal. In order to achieve the equality and harmony that existed before the storm, one might consider committing oneself to the idea of exploring what it means to build oneself in a gentle way. Simply put, self-esteem is an important factor in the treatment process after dealing with the violence of a close partner.
Why Love Yourself
Self-esteem honors who you are at the moment, by accepting where you are and in spite of where you would like to be. Self-love is less about loving your current circumstances, and more about learning to accept that you are worthy and that you have value and purpose in spite of current or past circumstances. Selfishness appreciates your self-esteem and informs that your presence will be important in this World. This can be hard work, but the work you have to get, “No other love, no matter how sincere, can fill a person’s heart better than unconditional love” – Edmond Mbiaka.
Awareness As A Key Part of Self-Love
When did you last wonder; “What are my needs?” or “What do I want?” Mark Twain said, “The worst loneliness is being uncomfortable when you have your own body.” If a person does not know who he or she is, and does not feel good about himself or herself, he or she may be in danger of meeting and joining a person to compensate for the vacancies that he or she can personally fill. Knowing a person’s needs and accepting those needs is very important in understanding self-love. Humanist Abraham Maslow published a list of human needs in 1943. As evidenced by Maslow’s list of needs, everyone has basic needs, the need to feel safe, the need for healthy relationships, the need to have feelings of self-esteem (self-esteem), and self-reliance (self-fulfillment). While it can take a painful experience on a self-help journey, a process through IPV experience, past / more painful experiences, feelings of loss, everyone has the right to promote self-esteem, but that journey does happen. Each person’s journey is different. If you find yourself having trouble understanding this concept and moving on to self-care, dealing with the barriers of self-interest with a lawyer or counsel is recommended as additional ways of support.